Into a Mud Hut...

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I once read a quote that said,
"If a woman loves a man, If she really loves him, she will follow him...even into a mud hut."
I've always loved this quote, as it shows how to measure the validity of ones love, in a simple, almost poetic form. Not that love needs to be measured, but too often, the concept of being in a relationship with someone because of their money and/or status is all too real.  
A woman will date a man, as will a man date a woman, purely based on their potentional to give them something that they need in order to feel more secure. These "somethings" range from the ability to live in a ritzy gated community and drive nice vehicles, to being able to claim that you are the wife or husband of "so and so." Whether it be a political figure, CEO, or the all too common, "ball player," some people need to feel public validation from being with their significant other.
 You're probably saying to yourself,
"I'm not like that! I'm far from those Gold Diggers...I'm a Goal Digger!" (hahha!) 

...Living in a hut doesn't sound too appealing off top, does it?  When I think of a hut, I'm reminded of a cave... something shaped like an igloo that you'd make outside as a kid when it snows. There's one way in and one way out... nothing on the walls as its sole purpose isn't to entertain visiters.

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Now, imagine a hut made out of mud. Ha! ...that is taking it to the next level!   Not only is your house simple and small, now its made out of mud!  ...the funny thing is, after a bit of research, I found out that a mud hut is actually pretty durable and was a common structure, many times made using sophisticated architectual techniques by nomadic people throughout the ages. Yet, even with this new Mud Hut-knowledge...What would YOU do? Would you follow someone...even if this means you must resort into going into the seemingly lowest of the lows? 
I personally considered this question for myself.  If Reg told me... "Hey, lets get married, but we're going to be living in this shack made out of branches off Route 1" ...I know I'd quickly say, "yes!!" (because I love him!)
but dont get it twisted... 
I am HUMAN...
...so subconciously my mind would start thinking of ways to avoid, 'said shack' ... and I'd definitely ask questions...like, Why are we moving into, 'said shack'... How long do you think we will be living in, 'said shack'? Did the Lord direct you into, 'said shack'? ...because If I didn't know for 100% fact that my future husband was following the direction of God, even before the proposal, I wouldnt follow him into a mansion in Beverly Hills. I just wouldn't. I personally know this to be the case though, so if that was the deal and the true direction that he got from the Big Man Upstairs, I'd sign on the dotted line. I know my answer. "Roosevelt Blvd, here I come!" lol. 
Now, I'm no love doctor or psychologist, but the point here is simple...just like the quote... If you think you love someone... like, you really love them, for who they are, in terms of their personality, soul, beliefs, ...you know, the things that go way beyond what's in their pockets... then consider this question.  Could you follow them?...If circumstances presented themselves, would you follow him or her? ...all the way, into a Mud Hut?  xo -SBG


Results May Vary: Understanding the Positive Effects of Trial and Error for Natural Hair Girls


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To this day, it still surprises me when random strangers stop to ask questions about my hair.  "How do you get your hair like that?"..."What products do you use?"..."Where can I get those products?"...
...and while I'm surprised, I'm still elated to hear these questions.  I love "hair talk," especially about natural hair, and the fact that anyone deems me knowledgable enough to give them even a bit of advice makes me feel like I'm doing something right in this crazy natural hair game!
HOWEVER... I WISH that at the end of every conversation the voice of that guy from the AllState Insurance commercials (you know...the love interest of Whitney Houston, in Waiting to Exhale) would bellow from the sky, and quickly say in auction style, "Individual Results May Vary from Curl to Curl and Kink to Coil"
Let me make a quick point...I love to help empower women all over, -especially young women- to either create or nurture their self esteem, and develop an awareness for their own natural and inner beauty. So, please know that these thoughts don't come from a lack of wanting to stop and answer a few questions...  They come from the experience of knowing that in using beauty and hair products, not every solution is EVERYONE's SOLUTION. ...and unfortunately, many people do not know this, or just plainly don't want to hear or believe it.

I cannot even BEGIN to tell you how many different products I've tried over the years... Not only have I tried different products, but I've tried different methods.  Different ways of shampooing, conditioning, executing hair masks, oils treatments,detangling methods... long term regimens, short term regiments... I mean... the list goes on and on, and I've only been natural for about 2.5 years! Sometimes my hair has turned out exactly like the youtube video tutorial I watched... other times, uhh... not so much.
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My first attempt at KimLuv's 40's Protective Style (2.5 yrs ago) View it HERE

 I've even gone to a salon that a natural hair celebrity swears by, because of the 'treatments' and 'methods' they use, only to end up with hard crunchy hair, a mushroom style (it was very unattractive,trust.) and water down by back from a bad shampoo job. This place will remain nameless.
Furthermore, this isn't a newsflash, but I need to say it...All hair is not the same.  The hair on our own head varies from section to section.  The outer perimeter of my hair, for example, is tightly coiled.  Some may classify it as 4a.  The center of my head however grows in a loose wave....and then there is a random chunk of strands at the center of my right side, parallel to the tip of my ear.  This chunk of hair is BONE STRAIGHT.  Water, curling pudding, gels... NOTHING can make this strong band of solders march.  They just hang in military order until I bobby pin them into submission against my scalp.
So, I say all this to explain that the hair you see on top of my head is a result of many tried and failed operations.  This however is the beauty of the process and journey of maintaining natural hair.  Trial and Error...Learning, is the key to having fantastic hair. This is the FUN part!  

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One of my first attempts at FusionofCultures' Twist Out/Roller Set. So tiny! (almost 4 years ago!) View the Tutorial HERE

I am in no way advocating seclusion when it comes to discovering natural hair products and methods.  In fact, I am all for it! My advice, however is to strive for good results, know that you will have to experience trial and error, and don't necessarily expect your results to be the same as someone else's.  We are all different and our hair, like our bodies, react to different treatments. Test out some things and see what works best for YOU!  -SBG

Curlbox: Motions Radiating Gloss Review


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Its no secret... I'm a straight up Curlbox FAN!  Once a month the great folks over at Curlbox...lovingly deemed the "CurlBoxCrew," mail myself (and loads of others) a box of full sized hair product, samples of products, and a variety of other fun hair treats, all geared towards those with curls, koils, and kinks.
I personally find this service beneficial as it helps me to not go broke while still fulfilling my beauty product addiction.  Some call my 'kind' a - Product Junky. haha.  By getting shampoos, conditioners, oils, and the likes by a variety of different brands monthly, I'm able to test out different products and find out what works best for my hair. ...and of course I love to do Product Reviews for you all... so the more products I acquire, the more I can try out, and thus review! 
For the month of May, my favorite product found in my Curlbox comes from the brand Motions' "Naturally You" line.   Motions Radiating Gloss is now a new staple in my hair regiment for three reasons.

 1. BOMB INGREDIENTS.  This product has been formulated with the ingredients shea butter, coconut oil and avocado oil.  As discussed in prior posts, most oils are used to coat the hair strand and seal in moisture already within the strand.  On a molecular level, many oils are too thick to penetrate the hair. Many oils EXCEPT... you guessed it - coconut and avocado.  (olive too).  Now, these oils cannot fully get through to the core of the hair strand but they can sneak in a bit, and every natural hair gal knows, all we want is more moisture.  we want more, we want more, we really really want more!!  Click HERE for more information on oil penetration.

2. PACKAGE PERFECTION. Let me just say that this product comes in an excellent -ergonomically correct- bottle.  The weirdest things mean a lot to me as a consumer, and shape and usage of bottle, container, or spray can make a huge difference is whether or not I purchase something long term.  This bottle has an easy pump top... not to little and not to much of the oily mixture comes out, and I can easily grip it without slippage.  I really dislike it when I cant hold a bottle with one hand and simultaneously pump or squeeze the trigger.

3. SHINE ON!  This product really made my curls shine the first day I used it, as evident of the photos in this post, however I was more amazed at my second, third and forth day of usage.  Usually after day 1 of a braid out, I loose all traces of sheen, regardless of whether I sleep on a silk pillow case.  Over the years, to prevent this, I've used straight unrefined coconut oil, which I love, but it tends to be thick and goopy at times (Yes, I said goopy... like globy...chunky... you know what I mean.).  Motion's Radiating Glosser is lightweight and makes my day old hair feel super soft.  Its the best antidote for smashed bed-head curls as well.  Seriously!
So, anyways, these are the reasons for which I love the Motions Radiating Gloss product and would ya believe?... the CurlboxCrew made me a MayCurlBox Winner for posting my photo, product, and results. Yay! Till next time... xoxo, SBG  (Click HERE for additional PHOTOS from the "Young Queen" Shoot!)
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